Jim Dreaver, The Way of Harmony

  The core insight involves a subtle shift in the way you see yourself and your life. It is a stepping back, so to speak, and beginning to see that you are not the person you thought you were. Specifically, you are not your "story." The reality you've created inside your head about who you are--your beliefs, personal history, attitudes, identity, and self-image--is not who you are. This internal reality is actually nothing more than a tale you've been telling yourself, probably for most of your life. It's a fiction, a myth, created out of memory and belief, reinforced through the opinions and judgments of others, and clung to mainly through ignorance and habit.