It's like a moth being drawn to light. As you reach a certain point, you realize that you only see the projections of your own mind. Everything that's happening to you is a teaching designed to burn out your "stuff." Your humanity isn't an error. All your desires are part of the journey.
You would not have taken birth on this particular plane of existence unless you had work to do in the areas of life and death-the security of your separateness, anxiety about it, lust, greed, power. Those are the prerequisites for your taking birth on this plane.