This person that you take yourself to be, the one you hold so near and dear, is but a vortex of impressions. The trouble is that these impressions can take over and obscure the vastness of what you are with negative, downtrodden messaging. Sometimes it could be quite a storehouse of conditioning. Sit still and clear eyed and see this, then, get out the shovel and pitch every last bit of it out. Stay in the habit of cleaning house and sense what a relief it is to be free of what is false. No longer is there a need to impress or protect your feelings.. You respond to the world with an unhindered intimacy that is spontaneous.